Synopsis
about the “Change You Brain Everyday” Blog
Good Ruler Strategies: Prevent social media monopolies. Teach people how to deal with traumas past and present. Minimize negativity. Encourage meditation. Make psychotherapy easy to enroll in especially if they have a history of trauma. Encourage the population to connect with parks and nature.
Evil Ruler Strategies: Ignoring past traumas. Fill the culture with negativity.
Exercise: How often do you feel like you are enough? How often do you think you are not enough? What factors growing up (adoption, neglect/abuse, loss, trauma, stability, praise, positive messages) influenced your psychological health?
I often feel that I’m enough. At least nowadays. I would never say the words “I’m not enough,” but definitely when I was younger My focus was on rising to the top of a big corporation and/or creating a big corporation. The idea of having a lifestyle business was off putting to me. This is no longer the case.
I don’t know why I had the sense that I had to be at the top of a corporate hierarchy but I did. I guess if I’m trying play the role of the therapist psychoanalyzing myself I would say that I was trying to prove something to someone. I’m not sure that is precisely the case. I would say that I was raised to believe my self to be the “cream of the crop” academically. All my test scores would back that up. I think I would have said an above average talent running a lifestyle business is squandering their gifts.
Now one of my mantras is “don’t take yourself so seriously.” This has helped reducing my anxiety a great deal. Perfection has always been my target. By allowing myself the grace to make mistakes I’ve been able to shed this anxiety.
As far as growing up factors I was raised by a single mother. This has greatly shaped the way I view the world. Going back to being my own therapist the hypothesis be that I wanted to make a name for myself so my father would feel bad for having discarded me. I think that is a pretty simplistic theory. Unfortunately there is way more layers to this onion.
Author – Coach Brian