Synopsis
about the “Change You Brain Everyday” Blog
8 Brain based parenting techniques
- Set Clear Goals – establish goals for the parents and the child
- Relationship is Key – spend quality time with and listen to your child
- Clear Expectations – post your household rules
- Praise – notice and praise good behavior
- Compliance – have non-emotional and quick consequences for non-compliance
- Choices – don’t make 100% of decisions for your child
- Unified Front – parents need to support each others parenting decisions
- Firm and Kind – balance firmness with kindness
Exercise: Which of these tips can you put into practice today?
I am not a parent but many of these rules can still be applicable in other relationships. There are so many good ones that it is hard to choose just one. My favorites are clear expectations and balance firmness with kindness.
When spending time with my 9 year old niece and 5 year old nephew I think I am good at balancing firmness and kindness. We have a lot of fun and they know they can goof around with me. That said I’m pretty good at communicating with them when they have crossed a line without losing my temper. I’ll get very firm with them but not very emotional. They usually respond pretty positively and act accordingly. They know that when I use my firm voice that there is no room for negotiating.
In general I would like to get better at setting clear expectations. I’m guilty of expecting others to read my mind. I need to do a better job of communicating what is on my mind and what exactly I expect from others. This is the relationship skill that I will be consciously working on over the next few days.
Author – Coach Brian