Synopsis
about the “Change You Brain Everyday” Blog
Neuroscience can be used in a practical way to help improve your relationships. Do you have a partner that says no a lot. Try rephrasing your question. Instead of “would you like to…” try ” I’ll bet you don’t want to…”. This should help your partner give your question some consideration vs simply reacting with a no.
You can also try some light carbohydrates for dinner followed by short walk to boost serotonin levels. Serotonin is the happy hormone and can help serious people loosen up. Some dark chocolate for dessert will signal the brain that the night is still young.
Don’t use these tips to manipulate your partner. Use these tips to make your partner happy with you.
Exercise: Do you know someone that tends to say “no” as their first response? Try saying the opposite to see if it helps.
Luckily I would not say that I have someone that always reacts with a default no.
I would say where I see the default no is in sales interactions. Just yesterday I witnessed this at the bike shop. A new customer walked in the door and the clerk asked, “Can I help you find something?” Just as if the doctor hit his knee with a rubber hammer the customer reacted, “No, I’m just browsing.” The funny thing was the customer didn’t even pause for an instant before asking for the clerk’s advice on what kind of bike he should consider.
Though he appeared relaxed he came in with his defenses up so high he said the same lie everyone that came to buy something says. Using the ideas from this chapter the clerk could say, “You look like you’ve been here before. You probably don’t need me to show you where the bikes are do you?”
Author – Coach Brian