Synopsis
about the “Change You Brain Everyday” Blog
Mobbing is when a community attacks the person who is challenging their status quo. This happened to Dr. Amen when he started brain imaging in the 1990’s. His colleagues dismissed him as a quack. More than have of people that have been mobbed developed PTSD, major depression, and/or had an increased risk of cardiovascular disease.
Exercise: If you have ever been picked on or bullied try to find a helpful lesson you learned from the experience.
The best thing that I can come up with is that holding a grudge does you no favors. You could hold a grudge for years. If you do that you are reliving the event every single time.
The person you are holding the grudge against has likely moved on. They might not even know that what they did effected you so much. So the person that you feel wronged by is not effected by the situation at all. You on the other hand relive the pain just like it is happening all over again every time you think about the trauma.
The best thing you can do is process your trauma and move on. Its not the same as forgive and forget. Forgive and forget is dangerous because you keep falling for the same trap over and over again. Processing the pain is more like forgive but learn the lesson. Remember the lesson.
Snakes are going to bite. That’s what they do. If you know that and take precautions you are unlikely to get bit
Author – Coach Brian